Friday, August 21, 2009
this story is one of those that made me cried, i dunno y, but i just did when i read it..
its a story that reminds us of the littlest things in life that we tend to take for granted and forget..
love & life.This story tells us something about love & life.
My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.
Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.
One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked.
"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?
And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"
Somebody said it right..It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.
Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"
He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow.."
My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door that goes,
''My dear, I would not pick that flower for you, but..please allow me to explain the reasons further..''This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.
"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the
sunshine and the beautiful sand..and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face..
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do..I could not pick that flower yet, and die..."My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting.
and as I continue on reading,
"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk..''I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread..Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone..
That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms.
It has never been a model.
It could be the dullest and most boring form.
Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands..
and,
that's life.愛一個人..
要瞭解, 也要理解.
要道歉, 也要道謝.
要認錯, 也要改錯.
要體貼, 也要體諒.
是難忘, 而不是遺忘.
是寬容, 而不是縱容.
是要牽手, 而不要隨便放手!
能牽手時, 請不要只肩並肩；
能擁抱時, 請不要只是手牽手；
能在一起時, 請不要輕易說分手.
Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts
♥ a flower bloomed
4:05 PM
Sunday, August 09, 2009
happen to come across this on one of my friend's notes..
meaningful, but if only it can be easily done as said..sighs.
遇到你真爱的人时，要努力争取和他相处下去，因为当他离去时，一切都来不及。。
遇到可相信的朋友时，要好好和他相处，因为在人的一生中，能遇到的知己不多。。
遇到人生中的贵人时，要记得好好感激，因为他是你人生的转折点。。
遇到曾经爱过的人，记得微笑向他感激， 因为他是让你更懂爱的人。。
遇到曾经恨过的人时，要微笑向他打招呼，因为他让你更坚强。。
遇到曾经背叛你的人时，跟他好好聊一聊，因为若不是他今天，你不会懂这世界。。
遇到曾经偷偷喜欢的人时，要祝他幸福！ 因为你喜欢他时， 不是希望他幸福快乐吗？
遇到匆匆离开你的人时，要谢谢他走过你的人生， 因为他是你精彩回忆的一部分。。
遇到曾经和你又误会的人时，要趁现在解清误会，因为你可能只有这一次解释清楚。。
遇到现在和相伴一生的人，要百分百感谢他爱你，因为你们现在幸福和真爱！
Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts, Support and Encouragement
♥ a flower bloomed
2:14 AM
Sunday, November 16, 2008
离开旧爱, 像坐慢车, 看透撤了心就会是晴朗的.
i guess i can understand the meaning of this phrase now. i dunno why, but this song just pop up in my mind e other dae, and i guess i can put myself into the lyrics of the song..
was watching e repeat of
the magicians of love on tv the other dae, and this phrase below said by ming dao's character stood out to me..i guess it applies to how i've been feeling now, so i find the words even more meaningful..
但是被放弃的人不是输家,
在爱情的过程里面,
我们一直站在付出比较多的那一方,
所以受伤, 嫉妒, 开心, 欢笑,
所有爱情的感觉,
我们都比对方多了一倍.
当然, 伤害也会多了一倍.
不过这些现在对方都感受不到了,
全部都留给我们承受.
不过也正因为我们比别人多了一份爱,
才有力量在伤痛中重新站起来.
你可以选择停在原点自怨自艾,
任用他对你予取予求,
夺走你努力争取的一切,
或者你会抬起头勇敢面对,
让大家看到你可以重新站起来.
而且比以前更耀眼坚强.
i finally found the time sit down to keep my tings todae.
after a few weeks of avoiding the pain of looking at them,
i got a box, gathered all of our tings, and started packing.
there isnt alot of tings to be kept, but the memories contained are countless.
as i began putting them into the box slowly one by one,
half tearing and half smiling,
i allowed my mind to play through those happy times once more.
all the joy, the times that belonged to us and only us..
i guess i nvr thought that there will be the day that i will haf to make myself forget all these.
because remembering them only makes it harder for me.
finally, its time to close the box.
and to lock up all the memories in the locket of my heart.
I saw an old friend of ours today
She asked about you
I didn't quite know what to say
Heard you've been making your rounds 'round here
While I've been trying to make tears disappear
Now I'm almost over you
I've almost shook these blues
So when you come back around after painting the town
You'll see I'm almost over you
You're such a sly one with your cold Cold heart
Maybe leaving' came easy
But it tore me apart
Time heals all wounds they say and I should know
Cause it seems like forever
But I'm letting' you go
Now I'm almost over you
I've almost shook these blues
So when you come back around after painting the town
You'll see I'm almost over you
I can forgive you and soon
I'll forget all my shattered dreams
Although you left me with nothing to show
Full of misery
Now I'm almost over you
I've almost shook these blues
So when you come back around after painting the town
You'll see I'm almost over you
Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts, Me Myself and I
♥ a flower bloomed
11:42 PM
Thursday, June 28, 2007
i just spent the whole night up reading. Finishing up
The Undomestic Goddess, the book that i laid my hands on last week at the library.
its a very fufilling book..got me dreaming of my dream again.the dream of the peaceful, tranquil countryside life sometimes i wish that i'll get to have..just reside to a countryside; a peaceful and cozy one.. owning a beautiful house and a beautiful garden..of course, i wont mind being housekeeper like the lead of the story, if such accmmodating employers ever exists..haha. and with someone who equally wants to settle and contented life with a small nursery and garden to take care of..
i would like that kind of life, away from all the hustle and bustle and stress frm the city, just be contented living comfortably at some small town tugged away frm everything, having enjoy the fufillment of just watching the world go by..but of course, with good internet connection and shopping too..haha.
that's the kind of simplicity that i dream of (:
and my fav quote from the book!
a good comfort to perservere on whenever you feel that you've lost your way in Life's complicated journey..
"Don't beat yourself up for not knowing the answer. You dont always have to know who you are. You don't have to have the big picture, or know where you're heading. Sometimes it's enough just to know what you're going to do next."Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts, Quotables
♥ a flower bloomed
6:24 PM
Thursday, January 11, 2007
its a matter of perception.when you face difficulties, dont say,
"Hey God, I've got a big problem."
instead say,
"Hey problem, I've got a big God and everything will be alright."
:)
Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts, Support and Encouragement
♥ a flower bloomed
10:55 PM
Sunday, November 05, 2006
tis sentence on elieen's blog made me ponder.
i can't seem to trust.
would you rather be someone who knows everything? or knows nothing at all?i dun wan to be either.
can i be someone who doesnt know everything, but who doesnt know nothing as well?
Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts
♥ a flower bloomed
10:31 PM
Thursday, June 22, 2006
batam trip ended nearly a week ago and i noe its a teeny weeny late to blog abt it now, but its a lazi thurs afternoon and im bored, so o wells..heh.
the 3 dae 2 nite trip wasnt a trip to play, but to do a little charity work for the people there. if you mention do charity work in spore, the first of the many tings that would pop out of one's mind would be flag day or going to help the needy.. but the eleven of us were in batam to help to build houses for the people there..thou it was only two days of morning-to-late-afternoon help, it wasnt dat easy cuz we had to do lots of manual work under the changing weather..moving bricks alone took up the whole of our first dae.. everything had to be done by man; it feels like moving backwards to a time where there wasnt much technology..no cement mixer, no mini cranes..hmm, the construction workers in singapore are much luckier arent they?
and the houses built arent the best dat you'll see around; wif roofs dat might drip water on rainy days, no windows, cemented floors w/o tiles..there isnt even a proper ground outside the houses, just dusty sandy ground that would turn to mud water when it rains. but the people dont mind just as long as it is livable condition..
but the two days of getting muddy and dirty and sweaty were worth it! besides getting suntanned (or sunburnt), moving heavy bricks also got us a free lose weight and build up muscles programme..haha. wat's more, we went for a relaxing massage on the last dae to loosen all the crackling bones..but it was so ticklish i was laughing most of the time..
i miss all the o-so-fingerlicking-delicious food we got to eat and the soft comfy bed at the hotel..heh.
most importantly, i tink this trip serves as another reminder to me to be contented with what i have.. and im thankful, for everyone who made an impact in my life - my mum, yilin, dawn, my gals in poly, and
you, who always give me the most amt of patience and encouragement.. =) *big hugs to everyone*
Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts, Me Myself and I, Support and Encouragement
♥ a flower bloomed
3:28 PM
Wednesday, May 25, 2005
found tis message posted on friendster..
The guy who love you......can't tell you the reason why he love you. he only knew that, in his eyes, you are the only one.
...actually always make you mad, but he do never know what stupid thing did he done, as everything he done, is for your own good.
...seldom praise you , but in his heart, you are the best, only he know it....will scold or complaint if you din't reply his message but others, because he cares.
...Only drop his tears infront of you, when you try to wipe his tears, you are touching his heart , the heart which beat for you....will remember every word u said , even its accidentally. and he will use the word always at the nick of time....will not give any promise that easily, because they don't want to break the promise, they want you to believe him and they want to give you the happiest and safest life ever after.
...always tell you not to think too much, because they already plan it for you, he want to give u the best life in the future, he want to give you a suprise, believe him that he can do it....maybe can't remember special occasion like somekind of anniversary, but, he do know that, every second he live, he's loving you, no matter what day is today....won't said " i love you" that easily, because everything he done for you is showing that he love you already, but only he will tell the word at the special situation, because he dun wan u to misunderstand, he want u to know that he love you.The guy who really love you......will feel that, sometimes, something have to tell for only once, because he thought that u might already understand him, if talk so much, he will feel that theres nothing you will cherish....will go to airport to fetch you, he won't carry a bunch a rose and call you darling like what you expect. but he will carry your luggage and ask you "why are you becoming that thin within two days?" with his sincere heart.
The boy who love you......will listen quietly to you, when you are mad, and when you finished, he will said, "you still got class tomorrow, sleep earlier." with a smile....don't know that whether he should call you when you are angry, but he will send a message to you after few hours, if you ask him why he call that late, he will said, "when you are angry, my explanation are all rubbish. But when you calm down, my explanation will only really works."
...always call you little girl, but everytime he want to make a big decision, he will first want to hear your advice.The guy who love you......don't like little toy like teddy bear, but he will always put the bear you gift him at his bed. ...while quarelling, he will apologize uncontrollably, althought you are the one who's wrong, and later, he will sent a message to you with "baby, actually you know its your fault, you know it urself."...while really miss you, he will want to buy a bunch of rose and wait you stupidly under your apartment.but he never knows , what he bought is daisy, but doesn't matter, because in his heart, that's roses.
...seldom said sweet words, but you know, his kisses already transfer his all passion to you....if he can't always see you, he will try to make himself busy, for not to have any time to remember you, because he knew, if he did, he will keep on missing you until he could do nothing.quite meaningful ya? =)
Labels: Little Notes and Thoughts, Quotables
♥ a flower bloomed
9:06 AM
